Interesting Biblical facts about sex that I never heard in Church

I like lists.  So, here's a list of things they likely won't tell you in church.

1. Sex is a need.  It's not a "want."  It's a need.

No Really....

Corinthians 7 ⁸ I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. ⁹ But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Although the scriptures are rife with passages about abstinence, self-control, and sexual purity: this one clearly states that there are folks who "cannot contain."  CANNOT.  If you're a churchy person, you might need to stop reading for a minute and let that really sink in.  Think about the implications for many of the sermons you've heard.....hmmmm.... 

Note that it says "if."  Some people can contain.  Some people CAN'T.  And the implications of "burn" are rather astounding.  Does GOD mean burn with passion, burn at the stake for being a whore, or burn in hell?  Because if one can't contain, and fornication is sin, then that person is pretty much up the proverbial creek without the proverbial paddle -- without marriage.

1.5. Therefore, it's not always an idol.

Someone without enough food would never be accused of idolatry for constantly being distracted with thoughts of eating.  Well, for some of us, sex is like that.  It’s easy for couples who are getting it on to be very smug about how sex is an idol in the life of someone who needs it and isn't having it.

Just look around you.  Why are our culture and churches so obsessed with sex?  The same reason we’re obsessed with food.  I don’t give a rip about what your satanic culture or church has said about it.  People are so obsessed with it because they either: aren't doing it the way GOD intended and can never be satisfied, or they’re obsessed with it because they’re starved for it.

I’m sick of people, including me, talking about sex as if it’s an idol in my life simply because I am consumed with thoughts of it, with limited reprieve.  It’s not an idol.  It’s an unfulfilled need.

2. GOD never said celibacy or abstinence would work for everyone.

Matthew 19 ¹² For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

Again we see that not everyone can be celibate.  For some people it is NOT POSSIBLE.  Personally, I wish the people who can go without it would stop hogging up the people who can't go without it by marrying when they don't even need sex.

3. GOD's cure for sexual desire (what we call lust) will surprise you.

 
Prayer?  Bible study?  Locking yourself in a closet!!!  .... nope.


Corinthians 7 ² Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

GOD's cure for fornication is indulgence.  

Song of Solomon 5:1 for example, talks about gorging oneself on physical pleasure.


4. Some marriages in the Bible seem to have been accomplished in fairly short order with sex sometimes occurring shortly after the introductions...... not exactly what the modern church promulgates.

The story of Isaac and Rebekah comes to mind.


5. The Story of Ruth and Boaz is interesting.

Ruth slept at the feet of Boaz all night long in order to get him to marry her.  Now, much has been made of this being a custom of the proper way to let a guy know that a widow wanted him to take care of her as her husband because he was the next of kin.  However, we have some interesting other clues in the story.

Naomi was the instigator.  Ruth waited until he had eaten and drunk and "his heart was merry."  Ruth laid at his feet all night and then rose up "before one could know another."  hmmm.  So we know they didn't have sex.... but they seemed to have wanted to.

Can you imagine a sweet old middle-aged widow in the church telling her young daughter in law to go to a guy's apartment and get in his bed under his covers at his feet and sleep there all night to get him to marry her?  Interesting.  I'm not sure how analagous that is to the story, but it helps me think about it in a new way.


6. Virginity isn't all it's cracked up to be.

An unmarried woman dying in a state of virginity is a good thing, right?  Well Jephthath's daughter didn't think so.  She was about to be burned at the stake and she asked to go up in to the mountains to mourn NOT that her life was cut short but that she was going to die a virgin.  And her father let her.  And every woman in the country went to mourn her for four days..... every year.


7. It's important that we try to hook women up with husbands.

Since we don't have the kind of communities and families that can effectively arrange marriages anymore, we need to look out for each other in this way.  The same way we would look out for a guy who needs a job.

The Bible story about Tamar certainly underscores it's importance for some women.

Sometimes it is better to pretend to be a prostitute so your father-in-law will have sex with you and get you pregnant out of wedlock, than to die a childless widow.

Imagine this in today's church.  What would be said about that woman?  What would the father-in-law say?

Well, in this case, here's what he said,

Genesis 38: 26 "....She hath been more righteous than I; because that I gave her not to Shelah my son."
 
And, I think we can pretty much end this section here.


The UPSHOT.

Basically the upshot is that the church is forcing some of their young people to push the boundaries on sexual promiscuity.
The church wants people to have long courtships and engagements without sex, and as the Bible shows that's simply not possible for some people.

So what are young Christians doing instead of getting married when they need to?  They're having other forms of sex, contracting STD's and getting pregnant out of wedlock.  That's what they're doing.




Side Note:

WHERE ARE THE CHRISTIAN MEN IN ALL THIS?!?!

Okay, so I have to ask..... Why are so many Christian men so willing to throw their good Christian women to the heathens?  There are Christian women out there who aren't quiet, mindless, helpless types.  But, if they can't contain their sexual desire and need to marry, and no Christian guys will marry a woman like that.... then the Christian men are forcing them into the arms of heathens.  If you're a Christian man, please see: "How Women Deceive and Snare a Man" to find out why this won't work for you.  If you're a Christian Mother of a Christian man, please stop trying to sell him on the pipe dream described in "How Women Deceive and Snare a Man."