I'm not going to even address sex outside of marriage as I don't know much about it, and have no desire to. I am simply not capable as an INTP female of engaging in such an important, satisfying, and emotionally vulnerable activity with anyone who won't "put out" in terms of a commitment. No worries: it's only the rest of your life and you get a nympho in exchange.
Interestingly enough.... INTP's seem to tend toward
nymphomania. Being slightly nympho myself, I simply can't conceptualize what "excessive" could possibly mean.
NOTE that this often puts INTP females into a perpetual state of sexual frustration since we won't settle and our drives are outrageously high by society's standards. For
me, the act of sex is what feels normal, it feels like the way things
should be always. Any moment without sex seems abnormal, lacking, and
deficient. However, I won't have sex outside of marriage or with anyone I deem to be less than worthy. In addition to this, nothing but true male to female intercourse really satisfies. This long-term frustration can often lead to fetishes such as sadism, exhibitionism and the like.
One thing I've discovered is that most men are not nearly as
interested in or able to enjoy sex as society, or even at times the men themselves, would have everyone
believe -- especially as they age. Sorry fellas, but the truth is out. One of my more promiscuous male friends admitted to me that the reason he has so much sex with so many different people is that he is searching for sexual enjoyment and hasn't found it yet. (Doesn't ever experience quality sex.) Many of my guy friends have enlightened me that they typically desire sex about three times a week and aren't really interested in much more. (Doesn't experience quantity sex.) I am fully capable and have a great need for both: Quality and Quantity.
This is a HUGE problem for INTP
Females.
Here are some points as to why:
a. INTP females nearly fully equate sex with
love. In addition to sex, I personally don't need a whole lot else besides interesting
conversation and some encouragement to feel loved. What can I say? I'm
easy to please. I don't really see what all the complication is about
in terms of romantic relationships.
Sex defines a romantic relationship. After all, I have many friendly relationships and have even lived with friends. The only thing that separates them in my mind is the sex. What else is there that's different?
b. Men are
generally "full of it" about their ability to satisfy an INTP female
sexually. Wait. That's not really a fair characterization. INTP
females aren't much capable of sexual satisfaction in terms of quantity,
although they truly, really enjoy it qualitatively. (This is the opposite of most women who frankly don't really enjoy it and consequently don't need much of it. If you don't believe me, that's because your woman is lying to you to manipulate you. I know. I hear what they say about it when you're not around. Most women have never even experienced the big O.)
What most men are capable of in their imaginations and what they are actually able to physically/emotionally/mentally deliver tends to be separated by a fairly wide gap.
c.
This seems to make INTP females less attractive to most men who would
rather die than have to deal with the fact that their woman's drive is
going to be greater than theirs at times. This leads to many relational
problems, or lonely INTP females as their husbands move on to pornography or women who don't
like sex and therefore make their men feel more like what society defines as
masculine. (A person who needs more sex than their wife.)
This is part of the reason why I will not tolerate a man who looks at pornography. How dare he spend any time sexually with another woman, whether flat or 3D, when I'm ready, willing, and in need of his sexual attention myself!! This is the ultimate betrayal for me, and for every single INTP that I know. Sexual infidelity will get you set out on your keister.
d. So, if you're perpetuating the myth
that men's drives are greater than those of women... STOP IT!!!! Stop
it right now! You are adding to the general unhappiness of some fine
INTP females who are always up for and in need of a good time with the right man and circumstances.
